274. Coach Uses Victory Over Pain to Build "Instant" Connection with Clients
Occasionally, Greg Thredgold talks to old friends from school. “They’ll say, ‘Boy, I wish I could go back to those days,’ and I say, ‘Not me, I hated school.’ Starting at age seven, I was molested, abused and even tortured.” Becoming an expert at daily survival would ultimately led Greg to an unexpected and rewarding destination.
Greg Thredgold’s life has been filled with challenges, setbacks, loneliness and pain, including the death of his son Connor in 2014. He has become an expert in daily survival over the last 40 years dealing with severe depression, panic attacks and anxiety. Both because of and in spite of his own long battle, Greg has become a bestselling author, a sought after speaker and business owner, and an international award-winning photographer.
How Did You Start Using Your Talents?
“Ever since high school, photography was a passion of mine. I’d done it part time for years and years, mostly for portraits and weddings. I loved it. But I kept coming back to the question am I really making a difference in people’s lives? I make a situation beautiful and I photograph it, and I never shoot them again. I make people look good. But for my career, I just went into sales because I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t have very high self-esteem, but I was really good at upselling and adding on products. So, the company brought me in to the Customer Service department to teach them how to do it, and I ended up taking over their department a few months later.
I would constantly come across articles saying customer service was one of the top ten hardest jobs in the world. I thought, why in the world, while I’m dealing with depression, am I doing this job?”
The Most Impactful Turning Point?
“About six years ago, I changed the questions in my life. Instead of asking, ‘Why is this happening to me? Is God or the Universe mad at me? Am I being punished?,’ I changed the question to, ‘What am I supposed to learn from the things that are happening to me and why have I been given these challenges?’ The minute I did that, a light went on in my life. It’s not that everything got better instantly, but I took my eyes off myself and started to take baby steps. I started looking for opportunities to reach out and help other people, and that, in turn, helped me. As Zig Ziglar said, “You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”
The Most Powerful Lessons Learned?
“Dealing with 40-years of mental illness put me in a great position to help others dealing with that. About three and a half years ago I beat my depression and anxiety, my mental illness. So, to be able now to instantly connect with other people and understand their feelings, fears and emotions is a blessing and a miracle. The coaching definitely flows from that.”
Steps to Success from Greg Thredgold
1. Finding help may not be easy, but it is possible. Don’t give up your search until you find what you need and want.
2. Face challenges with the question, “What am I supposed to learn from this?”
3. Apply Zig Ziglar’s wisdom: “To get what you want in life, help other people get what they want.”
4. Use your life experiences to deepen your empathy.
On His Bookshelf
Choosing Clarity: The Path to Fearlessness, by Kimberly Giles
Connecting With Greg Thredgold
Free articles, work sheets and audio recordings by Greg that cover how to talk to people who are depressed and how to know if you are depressed. Go to claritypointcoaching.com and click on Certified Coaches at the top of the page, then click on Greg Thredgold’s listing to see his web page and get these downloads.
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