762. Expert Interview: How to Write a New Story for Your Life and Career
“First, somebody has to really gauge where they are right now. So many people are overwhelmed at the thought of even making changes in their life and so the first thing you have to do is just really look in the mirror and ask yourself….am I experiencing life at the level I want? Because we can have a really big debate between our highest self and our ego.”
Kelly Resendez is a mom, business executive, best selling author and influencer. She loves helping others with strategies to overcome self-sabotage and find more joy. Author of the new book “Big Voices,” Kelly is also founder of the movement Big Voices, a women empowered network. She is passionate about helping people increase joy, reduce suffering, and learn to think differently. Her own journey has helped her create the strategies and tools that she shares throughout her books.
How to Write a New Story for Your Life and Career
“There are those people who really do not want to make a lot of life changes, but they do want to change how they are experiencing life. So maybe they have success—good career, financial security, healthy family—but they feel they are out of balance and just want to make some tweaks to their existing story right now.
“The other categories of people are those who want to throw the whole thing away and start a new life. That could be beginning a brand new career or ending a relationship that isn’t working for them. It’s really about starting completely over and making serious, major changes in their lives.”
Why Is This Important?
“There are three major blocks that I find people normally encounter while trying to create a new vision for their life. The first is the difficulty of replacing the ‘old story’ with a new one. It is just our unwillingness on a daily basis to trust that everything is going to work out well for us. We are held back by the trauma and wounds that have accumulated since birth.
“The second block is isolation. Nearly half of Americans sometimes or always feel alone, and one in four never feel there are people who truly understand them.
“The last one is the deep belief that when you are clear on your purpose and vision that there is a higher power, whether you believe it is spiritual or religious, that is going to orchestrate around you moving forward. Too few have this belief.”
What Are the Key Lessons Learned Here?
“You have got to create a vision for yourself—how you want to experience life. How do I want to feel in business, with my spouse, with my children, in my friendships, with my health, and so on. Then break the vision down into specific goals—weekly, quarterly, and annually. Then adopt some strategies to help you. Here are three I suggest:
* Thought Management Strategy—when you start to separate your thoughts from your emotions, you realize that a lot of them are not serving you.
* Sabotage Management Plan—helps you identify your preferred method of self-sabotage and create a plan around it.
* Trigger Management Plan—having a plan that helps you choose how you respond to life rather than too often being just reactive.”
Connecting With Kelly Resendez
Your website: http://www.bigvoicesrise.com
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Your LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellyresendezmortgagelending/
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Visit http://bigvoicesrise.com/DYT to find her Essentials Tool Kit, free chapter of her newest book and many helpful templates to help you write your story.
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