473. Expert Interview: It's Not Letting Go That Hurts. It's Holding On That Hurts
Lauren McLaughlin has had a long and varied career, every step of which led her to love and learn about people and what makes them do what they do. At the age of 59, that path led her to become an ordained Unity minister. She’s a writer, speaker, teacher, retreat coordinator, keynote speaker, counselor and professional student. Lauren is always seeking to learn about people and new ideas. Certified in several modes of energy management, she enjoys helping people who are feeling anxious or are suffering physical or emotional distress by introducing them to the many blessings of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Psych-K, a probing technique designed by psychologist Rob Williams to help identify the deepest desires of the heart. She lives in Florida with her husband and professional partner John.
It's not letting go that hurts. It's holding on that hurts.
Letting go of the way you’ve always done things to move into a new way to do things is difficult for men, women, children…for everyone. It isn’t letting go that causes the hurting, it’s holding on and sticking in places where you don’t want to be that really hurts.
Why Is This Important?
There are key turning points in life when it’s time to let go of the past and move ahead. “Many people who have invested their life in their family come to a stage of life where their children are grown, the husband is very successful, they’ve done all the social thing, all the volunteer work and all kinds of things. They’ve created beautiful homes, but they have lost themselves in taking care of other people and never have probed to see who they are. They’ll come to me and say, ‘I feel so unfulfilled. I don’t have any reason to complain. I’m well taken care of, everybody loves me, but I’m not happy.’ Not being happy is the signal that you are not living your personal life potential.”
What Are the Key Lessons Learned Here?
“Often around age 40, people recognize they are not happy and decide to take responsibility for their dissatisfaction. They decide to let go of their excuses and to stop blaming others for limiting their choices or causing them to feel stuck. I often ask them to recall the games they enjoyed playing as children. It’s a way of helping them start to get back in touch with what brings them joy. Another great tool for getting unstuck is gratitude.”
Connecting With Lauren McLaughlin
Facebook: Lauren McLaughlin
12 x12x12 – Transformative Affirmations for anyone feeling “Not Good Enough”
Subscribe to the Podcast Free: